Episode 56

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13th Dec 2019

1:30pm

EP 56 | Share Your Story - Change Your World

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Ready for some radical honesty about your story? Listen in. 

Hi, it’s Greg from Breakthrough Leadership and the No Head Trash Nation and today I want to talk about the single most important thing YOU can do to change your world… sound good?  Well, before I go any further, let me clarify for just a minute. 

You saw the title. You know what I’m talking about and the reactions are all over the board… I’ve talked to hundreds of people who want to write a book or tell their story – maybe it’s on your bucket list or you like the IDEA but have no idea where to start. That’s one of the things I do but before you start writing that heroic story of your life, let’s make sure it’s the story that will have the impact you’re hoping for… that is if you really want to change the world.  … I learned this the hard way.  

Let me give you a little background. Like you, I’ve been telling my story my entire life. Verbally at least, right? I’ve practiced it and sharpened, and it’s gotten better every single time.  No problem, right? I’ll tell it to Anybody who will listen, hey we tell our story even if the person ISN’T LISTENING… We love our story. We love our take on life, we love our words, we love our perspective. OR… we hate it. Either way we are DYING for someone to hear it, to validate it, to validate US… and our story… our experiences. 

But that’s not the story that will change your world.

See, the problem is I want to tell the story that puts me in the right light. Or I should say is consistent with what I believe about myself, about the world and my place in it. I want to tell the story where I’m the hero OR the victim of and I want to tell it MY WAY. I want my story to simultaneously open the eyes of the listener and establish my place as the one who made it happen. The problem is, that story is rarely able to get out of the starting gate. Oh… we tell it… but it doesn’t change our world because it’s encapsulated in the fakebook belief that people are inspired by heroes and we want to be that hero. 

I’ve had a lot of success. I’ve had a lot of failure. If there’s one thing I’ve learned is that people believe my failure more than they believe my success. They relate to it. They see nuggets of truth in it when I’m sharing a story I don’t even want to share!  But I’ve learned to share it anyway because when I share that story… the real story of my heart, my pain, my failure, my ongoing struggle to overcome the obstacles and the lies of Circumstances… I become real and relatable.

And, when I become a real person, I can help others embrace their real lives and work toward real results, overcoming circumstances instead of being crushed by their lies. My tribe hears my voice. I don’t have to have all the answers. I don’t have to be RIGHT or even be the hero. My story invites people on a journey and I’m willing to share what I know so they’ll do a better job than I did. 

When I share my story with radical honesty, vulnerability, obsessive open-mindedness, a clear Definition of success and belief that circumstances are opportunities waiting to be explored, THEN… and only then… my story can change My World. 

Yours can too.

Walk with me in the process of sharing your story, without the head trash. Not because it makes you look bullet proof, but because it is the honest evidence that (no matter how flawed and broken) connects you to your tribe and gives you a platform from which to Change Your World. 

I want you to write your story and I know you want that too. It’s deep work and it will change you on the road to changing your world. If you’re interested in learning more about the structure support to get past the head-trash and finally write your story, I’d love to help.

Text Yates – that’s my name – YATES to 474747 to get my latest book, “Circumstances Lie” for free. Or email me greg@noheadtrash.com . I’d love to hear your story. 

Remember, you were born to make a difference and your story is the key. Let’s do it together. 

Episode 55

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6th Dec 2019

1:45pm

EP 55 | The Biggest Apology of My Life

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For a free advance copy of my latest book, “Circumstances Lie”, text EZBOOK to 474747 or CLICK HERE   Text 'YATES' to 474747 for more information about My Practice Zone mastermind or to connect with Greg. www.noheadtrash.com

If you know me and if we’ve talked… Especially if you’ve worked for me or with me and ever tried to convey something important about your life… I owe you an apology. 

Let me be very clear about this. I’ve gotten this wrong – for most of my life.

Have you ever heard the Prayer of St Francis? You might not remember that’s where this comes from but I bet you’ve heard it. 

Lord, make me an instrument of thy peace. 

Where there is hatred, let me sow love, where there is injury pardon. 

Where there is doubt, faith. 

Where there is despair, hope. 

Where there is darkness, light.

Where there is sadness joy.

Grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console,

to be understood as to understand,

to be loved as to love…

for it is in giving that we receive, it is in pardoning that we are pardoned, it is in dying that we are born to eternal life. 

And here’s the part that’s killing me with AWARENESS today. That I may not so much seek to be understood as to understand. 

the problem is that I translate it first. I convert it into logic. into my circumstances, into my past experiences and I try to find a way to relate to it. Maybe that’s not a bad thing, but here’s what typically comes out…

OH… I know how you feel.

I felt that way once and here’s my story. and suddenly we are making it about US instead of them.  I’ve done it far more times than I’d like to admit.

Like I said… I owe you an apology. 

Look at it another way. Have you ever had someone you love tell you about an encounter at work, church or school and you were ANGRY about someone treating them bad… but if you’re honest,– you’ve been on the other side of it and it was a calculation, or just good business and you don’t understand why the other person is so upset!  

If you’re a leader, I KNOW you’ve been there. We’ve convinced ourselves we can’t ‘care’ about how a decision will impact everyone, so we sterilize it and put the needs of the MANY above the needs of the few. But if we were the few, would our decision be the same? 

So… what do we do about it? How do we truly understand? If you’re like most of us, as righteous as it seems to want to ‘understand’ … cause we’re supposed to love God first and love our neighbor as ourselves, right… to ACT based on that understanding weakens our position OR… so we think. 

So, we put up the walls, convert everything to LOGIC… and ultimately deem it’s not possible for us to do business and truly ADMIT we understand or care enough to put ourselves in someone else’s shoes..

So… like I said – I apologize. But there’s more. 

I WAS WRONG. See, I’ve asked you to go to battle with me, to help me achieve worthy goals that I wanted you to UNDERSTAND how it impacted the company and me. But I can’t ask you to do that anymore if I’m not willing to do the same.

Does that mean I can always do what you want? Probably not… but here’s what it does mean. If we’re on the same page, if the mission we’re on helps you reach your personal goals as well, we’ll be a real team. And there is no success without a team.

Here’s my apology. I’m sorry I haven’t conveyed the mission well and invited you to be an irreplaceable part of it. I’m sorry if my decisions haven’t seemed to convey that I care about you and your personal development as part of this organizational body achieving a worthy objective.

I’m sorry if my desire to win hasn’t included the desire to help you win at the same time. And if you’ll give me a chance, I’d like to get it right from here on out, even if it’s not always easy and if I don’t always get it right. 

That’s my definition of success. Let’s get clear about our shared Definition of Success and move our relationship and win the way all great teams win.

Let’s do it Together.  

Episode 54

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Published on:

28th Nov 2019

3:30pm

EP 54 | Thankful Despite the Head-Trash

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Sometimes I pay attention to dead authors, poets and heroes of the past. 

Sometimes, I don’t.  Even on Thanksgiving…

Why am I thankful, despite the Head-Trash? It’s simple really. 

I’m not dead. There’s still time (and I hope I don’t lose sight of that fact). Everything I dream of doing will be done in this life and I’ve still got a chance to do it.  

I’m thankful.

I looked in the mirror this morning and realized I care less about what I see in there than I cared a year ago. I reached for a towel to clean the same spots on the same mirror and the déjà vu of it fuels the desperation - to do something different. 

·        To break the pattern.

·        To change how I spend my energy on this racetrack of blood vessels and heartbeats.

Do you ever feel you’re drowning in expectations you have no idea how to satisfy? 

I’ve got tomorrow’s LIST already started… do you? 

The strange thing, (whether you believe it or not YET)… is there will come a day when it’s more important what you can get rid of than what you can accumulate… that’s how you know you’re beginning to cross over from hamster wheel to solid ground. 

That’s when you wish you had a filter for the head trash so you could do the important, maybe ONLY the important, and have a thanksgiving that doesn’t evaporate in a day.

I only hope it’s not too late. For you and for me. 

With the words of dead authors, poets and speakers ringing in my ears, I make this vow.

I will live in the Spirit of destiny, forgetting what is behind, abandoning myself to pursue the unknown where the atrocity of living cannot reach me for, I have abandoned the guilt and duty of an ordinary life.

Go with me. Live in the glimpse of broken reality. Stop forging the chains and break them. The most irresponsible life is the untested spirit of a Kingdom warrior trapped in an unbelieving host.  

That, my friends, is the greatest head-trash of them all. It’s the greatest atrocity and it offers us the greatest opportunity of our lives.  

In the middle of the Head-Trash… we can be thankful. 

Greg

For a free advance copy of my latest book, “Circumstances Lie”, text EZBOOK to 474747 or CLICK HERE

Text 'YATES' to 474747 for more information about My Practice Zone mastermind or to connect with Greg. www.noheadtrash.com

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Episode 53

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Published on:

23rd Nov 2019

7:13pm

EP 53 | The Only Two Ways We Fail

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Here's a shocker...

You can run from failure all your life but you can't escape it. 

Sooner or later, you're going to fail. The Question is... are you running TOWARD truth or are you running AWAY from it?  

On either road, you'll have a lot of company.  

Reminds me of an attorney I used to have who asked me if I knew how many lawyer jokes there are. I said, no but there are a lot of them. He looked me in the eye and said, no Greg… there are actually only 2. The others are proven facts.  

Thing is, I've only found 2 categories to put failure in... & only one is good failure (who knew, right?)

So where’s the dividing line? Where do the tracks split and all roads lead to one or the other? 

 You can fail in the PURSUIT of TRUTH… or you can fail in the DENIAL of Truth.  

The choice is yours. You can fail both ways, but one leads to brokenness and the other to breakthrough. 

Of course, I know you’re all about the truth, you’d never deny the truth… that’s crazy talk… but what happens when our perception of the truth gets in the way of the actual truth? When we’re convinced that fulfilling our purpose requires reshaping truth in some way.

Here’s what I know about TRUTH.

  • Just because you believe something is true, doesn’t make it true. You’re not the center of the universe and proving other people wrong doesn’t make you right. 
  • Truth is counterintuitive. Sometimes bad circumstances have good results and pain is the only path to a breakthrough.

The pursuit of truth isn’t found in circumstances or our best-laid plans, it’s a journey full of trial and error as we adjust toward true north in pursuit of our highest created purpose. Our purpose, our mission, our daily refined definition of success is part of this pursuit. 

Sometimes the path seems broad and easy, some days it’s narrow and we struggle to stay out of the ditch (and sometimes we end up in them!).

We fail... but we persist ...because the pursuit of truth is our only hope to know who we are, why we’re here and to matter in the journey to significance – the deep longing of our souls.  

Denial of truth is defined not always by a different path but by a different focus.

When we

  • choose the temporary,
  • rely on circumstantial evidence for our decisions and
  • possess no clear and compelling definition of success, it’s impossible for us to navigate the path to destiny.

Failure in the denial of truth shrinks our faith, limits our vision and reshapes the truth to match our interpretation of our experiences.

Let’s get rid of the head trash… It’s time to get clear on the mission and the truth.

In the pursuit of truth, here’s what you need to know. 

  • Search for allies,
  • align with resources outside your own strength
  • Don’t assume there is only one way to fulfill the mission and
  • always be aware that Circumstances Lie and there is head trash to deal with. 

You’re a branch, you’re not the source. 

Surround yourself with others in the pursuit of truth and pull each other up. Remember that failure in denial of truth is the path to breakdown, not breakthrough.

No, it’s not simple, but truth can’t always be seen from inside our own heads. We need a better perspective and that’s why we need each other.

Get rid of the head trash and let’s move from broken to breakthrough together.  

 Greg

For a free advance copy of my latest book, “Circumstances Lie”, text EZBOOK to 474747 or CLICK HERE

Text 'YATES' to 474747 for more information about My Practice Zone mastermind or to connect with Greg. www.noheadtrash.com

Join “The No Head Trash Nation” on Facebook

#NoHeadTrash #CircumstancesLie #MyPracticeZone

Episode 52

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15th Nov 2019

11:21pm

EP 52 | Greatest Obstacle or Greatest Opportunity?

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Greatest Obstacle or Greatest Opportunity?

I’ve got a question and it’s a big one.  When does your greatest obstacle become your greatest opportunity? 

And is it possible for your greatest opportunity to become your greatest OBSTACLE? 

Of course it is. 

As human beings we have a remarkable capacity for making easy things hard and once in a while, we make some hard things really-really easy.  … personally, I’m exceptionally good at the first one. I am GREAT – super-talented at making easy things HARD.

Seeing myself as a career problem solver, I wasn’t surprised when Richard stormed into my office. He was offended and quick to tell me about it. Donna had it in for him and this was more proof. He was sure of it. The ball was in his court. My question was simple. Do you want to resolve this issue or create support for your position? He reluctantly indicated he wanted resolution, but I knew it wasn’t why he’d come. 

Why do protracted conflicts come more easily than open conversation? Why does selfish agenda trump undiscovered potential? Is it possible the true undiscovered territory, the genuine unbridled opportunity that exists in our lives is just beyond the point where we prioritize validation, justification and pride of authorship?  

Does opportunity care that you’re right and someone else is wrong?  Trust and clarity seed opportunity and are never built on fear and duty. Head Trash demanding our own validation LOCKS UP potential before the game begins.  

What are the opportunities we’re giving up because we can’t get past the obstacle in our own heads?

When are Circumstances Lying with just enough ego magnetism that we’d rather see the barrier than get the breakthrough?  

You are the bottleneck to opportunity when you fail to realize that all meaningful growth comes through the door of your greatest obstacle.

Winning happens when we see past the challenge, past the barrier, past the anger, fear, hate and pride and pursue something that won’t happen on its own.

Dragons are not a myth. We need clarity about that which we must overcome or we never have the will to persevere to accomplish it.  

·        Broken relationships don’t heal on their own.

·        Unclear priorities don’t clarify themselves.

·        Food doesn’t get healthy because we need it to. 

·        Head-Trash doesn’t bring truth, it is asking us for the truth. 

My challenge is this. Stop waiting for circumstances to affirm you and every stoplight to turn green on your path.

Never forget that The Obstacle IS the Way. Everything you want is on the other side of a little good pain.  

For a free advance copy of my latest book, “Circumstances Lie”, text EZBOOK to 474747 or CLICK HERE

Text 'YATES' to 474747 for more information about My Practice Zone mastermind or to connect with Greg. www.noheadtrash.com

Join “The No Head Trash Nation” on Facebook

#NoHeadTrash #CircumstancesLie #MyPracticeZone

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The No Head-Trash Nation
Circumstances Lie but you don't have to listen.
There is a GAP between where you are and where you want to be. In that GAP is the Zone of HEAD TRASH. This is the ATROCITY preventing us from what we're capable of and it's time to talk about it. Feel the passion and hear the RANT of "Yates In Your Face" content and real-world examples of how real Head Trash is and how others have unmasked it in their physical, mental, relational, spiritual and financial lives. ... We need each other to Unlock our Purpose, Live with Passion and become who we were CREATED to be. *** Join the No Head Trash Nation on Facebook***

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Greg Yates

BIO: After more than 30 years in business, owning as many as 14 businesses at one time with hundreds of employees, Greg found himself under the influence of Head Trash when the Real Estate market crashed. In denial, Greg made decisions that ultimately cost him tens of millions in capital and a year in prison. Going from massive success to the brokenness of failure, Greg came face to face with the ‘head-trash’ that had blocked his decision-making process and left him isolated as a leader. Now, Greg trains high-level teams the 4 essential GETS if they want to Break through the barriers of Head-Trash. Greg takes leaders into a training environment he calls The Practice Zone where these four essentials and the HABITS necessary to implement them can be intentionally developed for success. Greg is the author of 4 books and his 5th book, entitled “Circumstances Lie”, will be released in the fall. His first book, “Broken, how being broken unlocked the greatest success of my life”, details his life, leadership, success and the entire story of his legal battles and prison. It’s a brutal story with extensive details Greg journaled in prison and how his return home sparked the desperate search for a new belief system and significance. Greg is a speaker, author, trainer, and coach but his ultimate mission is building the “Practice Zone Mastermind”, where men who are Christian Leaders can connect, train and network together. Men in leadership need a place to have conversations they can’t have anywhere else. Greg believes this network would have prevented catastrophic brokenness in his own life and is sharing purpose, passion and potential as the catalyst for exponential Breakthrough. "THE NO HEAD TRASH NATION" Podcast is where Greg rants about the Head Trash that's holding you back in short, inspirational bursts that bring clarity and focus for the Leader.