Episode 55

Published on:

6th Dec 2019

EP 55 | The Biggest Apology of My Life

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If you know me and if we’ve talked… Especially if you’ve worked for me or with me and ever tried to convey something important about your life… I owe you an apology. 

Let me be very clear about this. I’ve gotten this wrong – for most of my life.

Have you ever heard the Prayer of St Francis? You might not remember that’s where this comes from but I bet you’ve heard it. 

Lord, make me an instrument of thy peace. 

Where there is hatred, let me sow love, where there is injury pardon. 

Where there is doubt, faith. 

Where there is despair, hope. 

Where there is darkness, light.

Where there is sadness joy.

Grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console,

to be understood as to understand,

to be loved as to love…

for it is in giving that we receive, it is in pardoning that we are pardoned, it is in dying that we are born to eternal life. 

And here’s the part that’s killing me with AWARENESS today. That I may not so much seek to be understood as to understand. 

the problem is that I translate it first. I convert it into logic. into my circumstances, into my past experiences and I try to find a way to relate to it. Maybe that’s not a bad thing, but here’s what typically comes out…

OH… I know how you feel.

I felt that way once and here’s my story. and suddenly we are making it about US instead of them.  I’ve done it far more times than I’d like to admit.

Like I said… I owe you an apology. 

Look at it another way. Have you ever had someone you love tell you about an encounter at work, church or school and you were ANGRY about someone treating them bad… but if you’re honest,– you’ve been on the other side of it and it was a calculation, or just good business and you don’t understand why the other person is so upset!  

If you’re a leader, I KNOW you’ve been there. We’ve convinced ourselves we can’t ‘care’ about how a decision will impact everyone, so we sterilize it and put the needs of the MANY above the needs of the few. But if we were the few, would our decision be the same? 

So… what do we do about it? How do we truly understand? If you’re like most of us, as righteous as it seems to want to ‘understand’ … cause we’re supposed to love God first and love our neighbor as ourselves, right… to ACT based on that understanding weakens our position OR… so we think. 

So, we put up the walls, convert everything to LOGIC… and ultimately deem it’s not possible for us to do business and truly ADMIT we understand or care enough to put ourselves in someone else’s shoes..

So… like I said – I apologize. But there’s more. 

I WAS WRONG. See, I’ve asked you to go to battle with me, to help me achieve worthy goals that I wanted you to UNDERSTAND how it impacted the company and me. But I can’t ask you to do that anymore if I’m not willing to do the same.

Does that mean I can always do what you want? Probably not… but here’s what it does mean. If we’re on the same page, if the mission we’re on helps you reach your personal goals as well, we’ll be a real team. And there is no success without a team.

Here’s my apology. I’m sorry I haven’t conveyed the mission well and invited you to be an irreplaceable part of it. I’m sorry if my decisions haven’t seemed to convey that I care about you and your personal development as part of this organizational body achieving a worthy objective.

I’m sorry if my desire to win hasn’t included the desire to help you win at the same time. And if you’ll give me a chance, I’d like to get it right from here on out, even if it’s not always easy and if I don’t always get it right. 

That’s my definition of success. Let’s get clear about our shared Definition of Success and move our relationship and win the way all great teams win.

Let’s do it Together.  

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The No Head-Trash Nation
Circumstances Lie but you don't have to listen.
There is a GAP between where you are and where you want to be. In that GAP is the Zone of HEAD TRASH. This is the ATROCITY preventing us from what we're capable of and it's time to talk about it. Feel the passion and hear the RANT of "Yates In Your Face" content and real-world examples of how real Head Trash is and how others have unmasked it in their physical, mental, relational, spiritual and financial lives. ... We need each other to Unlock our Purpose, Live with Passion and become who we were CREATED to be. *** Join the No Head Trash Nation on Facebook***

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Greg Yates

BIO: After more than 30 years in business, owning as many as 14 businesses at one time with hundreds of employees, Greg found himself under the influence of Head Trash when the Real Estate market crashed. In denial, Greg made decisions that ultimately cost him tens of millions in capital and a year in prison. Going from massive success to the brokenness of failure, Greg came face to face with the ‘head-trash’ that had blocked his decision-making process and left him isolated as a leader. Now, Greg trains high-level teams the 4 essential GETS if they want to Break through the barriers of Head-Trash. Greg takes leaders into a training environment he calls The Practice Zone where these four essentials and the HABITS necessary to implement them can be intentionally developed for success. Greg is the author of 4 books and his 5th book, entitled “Circumstances Lie”, will be released in the fall. His first book, “Broken, how being broken unlocked the greatest success of my life”, details his life, leadership, success and the entire story of his legal battles and prison. It’s a brutal story with extensive details Greg journaled in prison and how his return home sparked the desperate search for a new belief system and significance. Greg is a speaker, author, trainer, and coach but his ultimate mission is building the “Practice Zone Mastermind”, where men who are Christian Leaders can connect, train and network together. Men in leadership need a place to have conversations they can’t have anywhere else. Greg believes this network would have prevented catastrophic brokenness in his own life and is sharing purpose, passion and potential as the catalyst for exponential Breakthrough. "THE NO HEAD TRASH NATION" Podcast is where Greg rants about the Head Trash that's holding you back in short, inspirational bursts that bring clarity and focus for the Leader.